A Message from Pastor Rick Greene: Overcoming Selfishness in Relationships
Selfishness is a trait that often leads people to prioritize their own interests without considering how their actions might affect others. The American Psychological Association (APA) defines "selfishness" as:
"The tendency to act excessively or solely in a manner that benefits oneself, even if others are disadvantaged."
You might not see yourself as selfish, but perhaps you lean towards being self-centered. Webster describes this as being preoccupied with oneself and one’s affairs.
Selfishness or self-centeredness can indicate a lack of trust in God or a lack of sensitivity towards others. But let me be clear: if this describes you, **you are not a bad person.** We are all human, and we all have areas in our lives that need adjustment. Let's look at some examples from the Bible:
King David: Despite being "a man after God's own heart," David's selfish desire for Bathsheba led him to commit adultery and orchestrate the death of her husband, Uriah.
King Ahab: Ahab's selfishness made him more concerned about possessions than people. He coveted Naboth's vineyard and was delighted when his wife Jezebel secured it for him by having Naboth killed.
Absalom: The third son of King David, Absalom, was selfishly ambitious and harbored hatred towards his father.
The children of Israel:Selfishness caused the Israelites to "willfully put God to the test by demanding the food they craved."
The rich young ruler: Selfishness caused the rich young ruler to turn his back on Jesus.
Selfishness in relationships can create unhealthy dynamics where one partner consistently acts in this **heir own self-interest, disregarding the needs and feelings of the other. This often leads to resentment, disappointment, and can even end the relationship.
I've learned that effective communication is the key to having a great relationship, but the issue is that many of us haven't been taught how to communicate properly. By seeking understanding, showing empathy, and prioritizing the well-being of others, we can foster healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Remember, God calls us to love and care for one another, just as He loves and cares for us. Let's strive to reflect His love in our relationships.
We will learn how to stop the selfishness and grow in a happy relationship if both parties are willing.
