If You Love Her...

If you love her...

You won't abandon her when times become difficult, even if she may want to abandon you.

You will never be physically or emotionally abusive to her.

You will always treat her with respect, even if you feel it's not earned

You will lay down your life for her.

Laying down your life means putting HER first in ALL things. Meeting her needs as best as you can, and creating an atmosphere of appreciation that will allow her to grow and thrive as a person.

Do these things and you will be amazed by the way she will blossom, grow and treat you with love, respect and release her passion in return.

Your relationship will be...AWESOME!

Fighting for your marriage

It has been often quoted that "Anything worth having is worth fighting for." So, is your marriage worth having? At this point, your response might be a resounding NO! However, this is probably due to you trying and trying to repair your problems and to find yourself failing and failing again.

You may feel "whats the use," you've might have even just given up and are simply waiting for the right time to leave. Let me suggest that you take action; a different action from what you may have tried before. You now know that hoping, nagging, and yelling will not get the job done.

Let me suggest prayer. By using your faith, praying in the spirit, and not giving up, you will see results. 

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As always I never recommend that anyone stay in a relationship where there is abuse; even if its mental or verbal, and especially if it is physical.

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Never think that the devil is going to sit idly by while you build a marriage that will glorify God.

If the two of you are not willing to pay the price for your marriage then most likely your relationship won't last past a few years.

Something Important

Something profound came over me awhile back as I was sitting at my desk and praying.

I came to realize just how important the work that I am doing really is. I have been giving life and relationship counseling for over a decade to individuals and couples, and had been focusing on helping couples and marriages to reach a place of peace and to build a loving happy relationship.

What occurred to me was that it is far more important than that. For every couple I help; there is a family that is saved! And for every family that is saved there are usually children which will grow up with both parents instead of one!

And we all know that children in homes with both parents are far more likely to stay out of trouble and succeed than those in single parent homes.

So I would encourage you to explore my Life & Relationships website and discover some tips on how to strengthen your relationship to be rock solid, not only for yourself but for your children and ultimately to build up a better, safer environment for all... for we all know that as the family goes, so goes the nation!

The Honeymoon Doesn't Have To End

The word honeymoon actually means first moon or first month. It is usually thought that the beginning period of a new relationship is the best. However this is not God's view for your marriage. 

Your relationship should actually get better as time goes on. Scripture tells us that, "Our latter years should be greater than our former years."

The key is putting your partner first. Just as when your first met. Your desire was to please your partner by submitting to each other, giving to each other, and considering each others desires above your own. 

You didn't realize it at the time, but you were actually employing the biblical principal of mutual submission. But as time went on, you gradually started to take each other for granted and focus on your own desires rather than your partner's.

If you both rediscover the principal of of mutual submission, your honeymoon will never end!

The Power of a Woman

As I thought about the unspoken and perhaps unknown influence that my love has over me, I couldn't help but be reminded of the power that women actually have in the world. Since birth, the woman is the one who has loved, nurtured, trained, and inspired every man on the planet! Women have an enormous amount of power yet don't always seek to or know how to use it to change the destiny of their families. We will discuss more in upcoming episodes.

Don't Cause Her To Feel Single!

A woman is fully capable of being faithful. It is not so much in their nature, although it is of course possible, to be drawn to someone else when they are already in a relationship.

Temptation is not her weakness. That's one of the key issues with men... wondering eyes will often lead to a compromise of values and succumbing to physical lusts.

What most women want is Love, Attention, Honesty, and Loyalty. These things, admittedly by most men, are emotional needs that men either struggle with expressing, do not care to express, or, are simply "clueless" to the fact that they exist and are essential to fulfillment,  joy and happiness to most women.

Love her! Love is best expressed through giving and sacrifice. Give to her, your time, your things, but most importantly your heart. Share yourself with her. Sacrifice yourself, put her desires above yours, sacrifices your wants fans desires to see that hers are fulfilled

Pay attention to her. This shows her that you value her and that her opinions and ideas are respected and that they are important to you. She needs this.

Be honest with her. Even when the truth may be unpleasant, tell her the truth. Her intuition will alert her if you are not, and she will sense that something is not right. If you are no longer wanting to be with her then tell her. Be honest. Don't cheat 

Be loyal. Be faithful. Be monogamous! Trust her and put her first.

Remember that before she "cheats" she will wine. cry, and complain about all the things that make her unhappy. Listen to her, open up your heart to what she's saying. If you don't understand, ask her to explain it so that you are clear as to what she's feeling. You must know her on this level. This IS intimacy! and sadly many couples lose their intimacy as their relationships move through time.

These are all warnings before the destruction of the relationship comes. So pay attention to your woman, and never cause her to feel like she's alone and single or thats how she will act. Like a single woman, and you will lose her forever.

5 SECRETS THAT WILL MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP GREAT!

For years people have been saying, "Write The Book!" and I have resisted; not because I didn't want to, nor because I didn't have the tools to share to help my audience, but simply because of time constraints due to the other "hats" I wear.

However I am now happy to announce that "5 Secrects That Will Make Your Relationship Great!" will be published very shortly... I guarantee that if you will apply these 5 secrets to you partnership you will see an amazing difference in you overall relationship happiness, more fun just being together, and increased and more enjoyable lovemaking sessions!

                                

What I am going to show in the few pages of the "manual" will change your life... Forever!

The secrets are very easy to master, theres no additional costs involved, nor is there thing that you have to pay for in order to Make Your Relationship Great!

I will however give you a hint of what it is that is the foundation to Make Your Relationship Great. The key is knowing some specific likes, and desires of your partner, but most importantly understanding their NEEDS!  

Stay tuned. This book is scheduled for release November 

Making Decisions... As A Couple!

Scripture tells us that If a house be divided against itself, that house cannot stand. 
(Mark 3:25)  And thus couples must learn to make decisions together as partners; because all of your major decisions will affect both of you and the children as well.

When one of you is left out of the decision making process it can lead to anger, resentment, and even hatred. Some partners will for example go out and buy expensive items on credit without consulting their partner and it often times leads to putting the couple in a financial bind. And this as you may very well know will lead to resentment, anger, and even hatred.

Remember when your decisions are based on fairness and equality you entire family will benefit... not just you! What do you think?

Its Not The Where, But The Who!

RELATIONSHIPS WITH PASTOR RICK:

This is the response that I have given my love several times when we were trying to decide what type of date we would go out on; when she would ask, where do I want to go or what would I like to do? The truth of the matter is that the place isn't as nearly as important as the person! When you're with the "right" person and you are able to share your heart with them, then everything else becomes secondary. MAKE SURE YOU GET THE WHO RIGHT BEFORE YOU START TO FOCUS ON THE WHATS AND WHERES IN YOUR LIFE! What do you think?

Pain

Everyone will experience pain in a relationship. But we must remember that pain is indicative that there is something very wrong. IF YOU ARE EXPERIENCING PAIN OR CAUSING PAIN TO SOMEONE YOU LOVE, KNOW THAT YOU MUST STOP IT IMMEDIATELY. Because, the longer it goes on, the greater separation it will cause between you and the one you love. And remember that where there is pain there is very little room for love.

Being One

RELATIONSHIPS WITH PASTOR RICK: **BEING ONE**  So much of our time is spent at work that we forget what we are working for. We must work but most importantly we must spend time with our families. Or else we will not have a healthy, happy home. Our mates are the only ones on the planet who can fulfill our most intimate needs. When we deprive ourselves of intimate time together we are actually allowing room for a separation in our relationship. MAKE SPENDING TIME WITH YOUR MATE THE NUMBER ONE PRIORITY IN YOUR LIFE AND IN THAT UNITY THE TIME FOR EVERYTHING ELSE WILL SOMEHOW WORK OUT! What do you think?

Commitment

       

RELATIONSHIPS WITH PASTOR RICK: There must be a strong commitment in marriage because there are so many things that can separate our oneness. Anything divided against itself cannot stand. WE MUST WORK TO BE TOTALLY COMMITTED TO OUR RELATIONSHIP OR ELSE IT WILL FAIL. What do you think?