Is Selfishness Keeping you From Having a Great Relationship?

 

 A Message from Pastor Rick Greene: Overcoming Selfishness in Relationships

Selfishness is a trait that often leads people to prioritize their own interests without considering how their actions might affect others. The American Psychological Association (APA) defines "selfishness" as:

 "The tendency to act excessively or solely in a manner that benefits oneself, even if others are disadvantaged."

You might not see yourself as selfish, but perhaps you lean towards being self-centered. Webster describes this as being preoccupied with oneself and one’s affairs.

Selfishness or self-centeredness can indicate a lack of trust in God or a lack of sensitivity towards others. But let me be clear: if this describes you, **you are not a bad person.** We are all human, and we all have areas in our lives that need adjustment. Let's look at some examples from the Bible:

King David: Despite being "a man after God's own heart," David's selfish desire for Bathsheba led him to commit adultery and orchestrate the death of her husband, Uriah.

King Ahab: Ahab's selfishness made him more concerned about possessions than people. He coveted Naboth's vineyard and was delighted when his wife Jezebel secured it for him by having Naboth killed.

Absalom: The third son of King David, Absalom, was selfishly ambitious and harbored hatred towards his father.

The children of Israel:Selfishness caused the Israelites to "willfully put God to the test by demanding the food they craved."

The rich young ruler: Selfishness caused the rich young ruler to turn his back on Jesus.

Selfishness in relationships can create unhealthy dynamics where one partner consistently acts in this **heir own self-interest, disregarding the needs and feelings of the other. This often leads to resentment, disappointment, and can even end the relationship.

I've learned that effective communication is the key to having a great relationship, but the issue is that many of us haven't been taught how to communicate properly. By seeking understanding, showing empathy, and prioritizing the well-being of others, we can foster healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Remember, God calls us to love and care for one another, just as He loves and cares for us. Let's strive to reflect His love in our relationships. 

We will learn how to stop the selfishness and grow in a happy relationship if both parties are willing.

HOW TO FIND A HUSBAND?

 

The Definitive Way On How Top Get Married...

How to Find a Husband: A Christian Perspective

Finding a husband is a deeply personal journey, filled with anticipation, prayer, and sometimes a bit of anxiety. As Christians, we approach this journey with faith, seeking God’s guidance every step of the way. Here’s a roadmap to help you navigate this significant part of your life.

1.Seek God's Will

The first and foremost step in finding a husband is to seek God’s will for your life. Jeremiah 29:11 reassures us that God has plans for us, plans to prosper us and not to harm us. Spend time in prayer, asking God to reveal His plan for you. Trust that He knows the desires of your heart and will guide you towards a partner who aligns with His vision for your life.

2. **Focus on Personal Growth**

Before seeking a partner, focus on becoming the best version of yourself. This doesn’t mean striving for perfection, but rather growing in your faith, character, and understanding of God’s Word. Proverbs 31:30 reminds us that a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Cultivate a strong relationship with God, as this will be the foundation of your future marriage.

3. **Join Christian Communities**

Engaging with Christian communities, both online and offline, can open doors to meeting like-minded individuals. Participate in church activities, join small groups, and attend Christian conferences and retreats. These settings provide opportunities to build friendships and potentially meet a future husband who shares your faith and values.

4. **Pray for Your Future Husband**

Praying for your future husband, even before you meet him, is a powerful practice. Ask God to prepare both your hearts for a Christ-centered relationship. Pray for his spiritual growth, health, and well-being. Trust that God is working in his life just as He is in yours.

5. **Be Patient and Trust God's Timing**

Patience is crucial in the journey of finding a husband. Ecclesiastes 3:1 tells us that there is a season for everything, and this includes finding a life partner. Trust that God’s timing is perfect, even when it doesn’t align with your own expectations. Use this waiting period to deepen your relationship with God and serve others.

6. **Seek Wise Counsel**

Surround yourself with trusted friends, family, and mentors who can offer godly advice and support. Proverbs 15:22 emphasizes the importance of seeking counsel: “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers, they succeed.” These individuals can provide valuable insights and encouragement as you navigate your journey.

7. **Be Open and Proactive**

While it’s essential to trust God’s timing, it’s also important to be open and proactive. Don’t be afraid to express your interest and intentions when you meet someone who aligns with your values. Building a relationship requires mutual effort and honesty. 

8. **Trust in God’s Plan**

Ultimately, the key to finding a husband is trusting in God’s plan for your life. Proverbs 3:5-6 advises us to trust in the Lord with all our hearts and lean not on our own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths. Trust that God knows what’s best for you and that His plan will bring you the deepest joy and fulfillment.

Conclusion

The journey to finding a husband is a beautiful blend of faith, personal growth, and community. Remember to seek God’s will, focus on becoming the best version of yourself, engage with Christian communities, and trust in God’s perfect timing. As you pray and wait patiently, keep your heart open to the possibilities that God places before you. May your journey be blessed and filled with His grace and love.

In Christ,

Dr. Rick Greene

Understanding and Nurturing the Sexual and Emotional Needs of Men: A Biblical Perspective for Women

 

In the journey for women navigating the intricate dance of relationships, it's crucial to understand and honor the sexual and emotional needs of your man. Rooted in your cultural heritage and guided by biblical principles, you can foster deeper connections and build resilient, loving relationships.

 Emotional Needs: The Foundation of Intimacy

1. Affirmation and Respect:

 Men, like all individuals, need affirmation and respect. Ephesians 5:33 encourages wives to respect their husbands, emphasizing that respect is a cornerstone of a loving relationship. Recognize and celebrate your partner's achievements, big or small, and offer encouragement during challenges.

2. Understanding and Empathy:

   Life's pressures, especially those uniquely experienced by men, necessitate a partner who listens and understands. James 1:19 advises, "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry." Practice active listening, offering a safe space for your partner to express their feelings without judgment.

3. Support and Partnership:

   Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 highlights the strength of partnership: "Two are better than one... If either of them falls down, one can help the other up." Stand by your partner's side, supporting their dreams and aspirations. This mutual support fortifies your bond and builds a foundation of trust.

 Sexual Needs: Celebrating God-Given Intimacy

1. Mutual Pleasure and Consent:

   Sexual intimacy is a sacred and joyous expression of love within a marriage. 1 Corinthians 7:3-4 underscores the importance of mutual consent and pleasure, stating, "The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband." Open communication about desires and boundaries ensures a fulfilling and respectful sexual relationship. In talk with many men they are sexually frustrated yet while desiring to be fateful to their partners. Know that a wife is the only one in eight billion people with whom your husband can be intimate with and not break his vows or righteousness to you, himself, or to God!

2. Intimacy Beyond Physical Connection:

   True intimacy encompasses emotional, spiritual, and physical dimensions. Song of Solomon 1:2 celebrates the beauty of intimate love: "Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—for your love is more delightful than wine." Nurture a holistic approach to intimacy that includes heartfelt conversations, shared spiritual practices, and tender physical affection.

3. Trust and Vulnerability:

   Trust is the bedrock of a healthy sexual relationship. Hebrews 13:4 reminds us, "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure." Building trust requires vulnerability from both partners, fostering an environment where both feel safe to express their needs and desires.

 Practical Steps to Nurture Your Relationship

1. Communicate Openly and Honestly:

   Regular, honest communication about both emotional and sexual needs is vital. Schedule time for meaningful conversations where you can both share your thoughts and feelings without interruption.

2. Invest in Quality Time Together:

   Strengthen your bond by spending quality time together. Whether it’s a date night, a weekend getaway, or simply enjoying a shared hobby, these moments of connection enrich your relationship.

3. Seek Guidance and Support:

   If challenges arise, don’t hesitate to seek guidance from trusted mentors, counselors, or your faith community. Proverbs 15:22 reminds us, "Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers, they succeed."

 Embracing a Biblical Perspective

Incorporating biblical teachings into our relationships provides a strong framework for understanding and meeting our partners' needs. By embracing the principles of love, respect, mutual support, and open communication, we honor God and each other, creating a harmonious and fulfilling relationship.

Men need women, with their unique strengths and the power of our faith, nurturing their relationships with wisdom, compassion, and a deep understanding of the beautiful, God-given needs of their men. Through yielding to God’s word, you will build lasting bonds that reflect the love and grace of our Creator.

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In writing this post, Dr. Rick Greene brings together his deep understanding of theology, his compassionate approach to relationships, and his commitment to guiding others in their spiritual and personal growth. This perspective aims to encourage and uplift, providing practical and spiritual insights for nurturing healthy, loving relationships.

What Many Women Want From Their Man

Hey! Brace yourselves for an electrifying ride as I dive into a controversial question that has tongues wagging and minds spinning: What do women ACTUALLY seek in a man? Get ready for some eye-opening revelations, because we're about to peel back the curtain and expose the shocking truth!

Money, Money, Money - It's All About the Benjamins!

Let's cut to the chase, shall we? Contrary to what the politically correct crowd might want you to believe, women are often looking for one thing above all else: cold, hard cash! Yes, you heard it right, folks! Many women out there want a man who can wine and dine them, shower them with luxurious gifts, and provide a lifestyle that would make even the Kardashians envious.

 

You Are Seen!

Maya Angelou said, 'I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.'

The Power of Setting Standards in Your Relationship

 The Power of Setting Standards in Your Relationship: Meeting Your Needs for a Fulfilling Partnership

Welcome to an intense discussion about the importance of setting standards in your relationship for a truly fulfilling partnership. It's crucial to establish clear expectations and boundaries to ensure a healthy and satisfying connection with your partner. Let's dive deeper into this topic with boldness and conviction.

Recognize Your Worth:

You are deserving of love, respect, and happiness in your relationship. Know your self-worth and refuse to settle for anything less than what you deserve. Value yourself and prioritize your needs and desires within the partnership.

Being A Man of Quality!

Today I want to talk about how to become a Man of Quality.

First and foremost, let's define what a Man of Quality is. A Man of Quality is someone who has his life together, is financially stable, emotionally mature, physically fit, and has a strong sense of purpose. Essentially, he is the best version of himself.

So, how can you become a Man of Quality?

Invest in yourself: Start by investing in yourself. This means taking care of your physical and mental health, developing your skills and knowledge, and working on your personal growth. The more you invest in yourself, the more you'll grow and become a Man of Quality.

Focus on your finances: A Man of Quality is financially stable. This doesn't mean you have to be a millionaire, but you should have a solid plan for your finances. Make sure you have a budget, save money, and invest in your future.

OBEDIENCE & SUBMISSION

 Why do we have such a problem with OBEDIENCE?

Here in America it seems as though there is disgust  
for the word obedience and submission. 

As a Christian pastor, I believe that both men and women are equal in the eyes of God and are deserving of mutual love and respect within a marriage. However, obedience in marriage is a sensitive topic that requires careful consideration and understanding.

In many cases, the issue of obedience in marriage arises due to a lack of communication and understanding between partners. Women, in particular, may feel that their opinions and desires are not being heard or valued by their husbands. This can lead to a sense of resentment and resistance towards obedience.

Furthermore, some women may have experienced past trauma or abuse that makes it difficult for them to trust and submit to their husbands. It is important to recognize these issues and provide support and resources to help women heal and move towards a healthy, respectful relationship.

As a Christian pastor, I believe that obedience is not about one partner exerting control over the other, but rather a mutual commitment to love and respect. As we strive to build healthy and loving marriages, let us look to the teachings of Christ, who modeled love and servanthood to those around him. May we be filled with grace, patience, and compassion towards our spouses, seeking to understand their needs and desires. May we embrace the beauty of mutual submission and work towards building strong, loving relationships that honor God and bless those around us.

Black Men: Better Than You Think!

As a Pastor, writer and blogger, I recognize the importance of amplifying the voices and experiences of marginalized communities. In this post, I will be sharing some of the critical opinions that black women have expressed about black men.

It is essential to note that these opinions are not representative of all black women's views or experiences. Still, they offer valuable insight into the ways that gender dynamics and systemic issues can impact relationships and interactions within the black community.

One of the most common criticisms that black women voice about black men is that they often perpetuate harmful and oppressive attitudes towards women. Many black women feel that black men can be dismissive of their experiences with sexism and misogyny, and that they often prioritize their own desires and perspectives over those of women.

Additionally, black women often feel that black men do not do enough to support them and their communities. Many black men are accused of neglecting their responsibilities as fathers and partners, leaving black women to bear the burden of caring for their families and communities alone.

Some black women also feel that black men can be emotionally unavailable or lacking in empathy. This can manifest in various ways, from dismissive attitudes towards mental health concerns to a reluctance to engage in open and honest communication with their partners.

Finally, many black women feel that black men can perpetuate harmful stereotypes about blackness, such as the belief that black men are inherently violent or hypersexual. These stereotypes can be damaging to the entire black community, and many black women feel that black men need to take more responsibility for challenging and dismantling them.

In conclusion, these are just a few of the critical opinions that black women have expressed about black men. It is crucial to listen to and engage with these perspectives to build stronger and more equitable relationships within the black community.

Don't Be Left Out

Greetings to all my brothers and sisters seeking to find love and build lasting relationships!

As the host for Relationships with Pastor Rick, it's my pleasure to invite you to join our community of sexy and exciting individuals who are passionate about improving their love lives. Our mission is simple: to provide guidance and support to black men and women looking to get married and have better relationships. Dont Be Left Out!

We understand that finding love can be a challenging and sometimes frustrating experience, but we believe that with the right tools and resources, anyone can create a fulfilling and satisfying romantic life. I've had the pleasure who to help countless individuals find love and build strong, lasting relationships.

Whether you're single and looking for love, or in a relationship and seeking to improve your communication and intimacy, our blog has something for everyone. From tips on how to spice up your sex life, to advice on how to navigate common relationship challenges, our content is designed to help you overcome obstacles and build a stronger, more satisfying connection with your partner.

In addition to our blog, we will also offer a range of resources, including workshops, coaching, community events, videos, and books, all designed to help you take your relationship to the next level. Plus, by joining our community, you'll have the opportunity to connect with like-minded individuals who are on a similar journey to finding love and building fulfilling relationships. And be eligible for our free give-a-ways

So what are you waiting for? Join our community today and start on the path to a more satisfying and fulfilling romantic life. Follow us on social media, sign up for our newsletter, and stay up to date on all the latest tips and advice from Pastor Rick and the Relationships with Pastor Rick team. We can't wait to welcome you into our community!

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Why Women May Lose Interest in Sex with Their Husbands After Several Years of Marriage

Over the years i've encountered couples who struggle with sexual issues in their marriage, including a common problem of wives who seem to have lost their desire for sex with their husbands. While every relationship is unique, there are several reasons why this may happen, and understanding them can help couples address the issue and find ways to reconnect.

1. Routine and Familiarity

One reason why sex may lose its appeal over time is the natural tendency of humans to get used to things that are repeated. In the early stages of a relationship, sex may feel new, exciting, and even a little scary, as couples explore each other's bodies and desires. But as time goes on, the novelty wears off, and sex can become a routine part of the relationship, like eating or sleeping. While routine can provide a sense of security and stability, it can also make sex feel less thrilling and spontaneous.

What can couples do to counteract this? One way is to intentionally vary their sexual experiences, by trying new positions, locations, or types of touch. Couples can also communicate about their fantasies, desires, and boundaries, and work together to create a safe and adventurous space for sexual exploration. By keeping the passion alive and resisting the temptation to take each other for granted, couples can rekindle the flame of desire that brought them together.

Relationships 101

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Join Dr. Rick Greene and his all-star lineup of co-hosts, including the bold and outspoken Pastor “P” Phyllis Ramey, host of “Reflections” and the provocative, investigative journalist Tybella Harrell, host of "Keeping Christ Close", for an unfiltered and groundbreaking new show that will push the boundaries of what you thought was possible. 

From taboo topics to raw discussions about infidelity and toxic relationships, we're not afraid to challenge societal norms and explore the most controversial aspects of dating, love, marriage, sex, and divorce. Tune in on Facebook Live and YouTube streaming and engage in candid conversations that will make you question everything you thought you knew about Black love and relationships. Don't miss out on the opportunity to unleash your wildest questions to build the healthy, loving relationships you deserve!"

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